This sibling group is one of several children who a Hand In Hand family was able to meet this March during their trip to the Philippines to bring home their teen. Hand In Hand is starting the search for a family by looking for families in the vicinity of the Indiana office because these children are good friends with recently adopted children here. If no families are available locally, we will spread the net further. The orphanage also would prefer a Catholic family because the children are older and have been raised in that faith in this particular institution.
Yesterday, Hand In Hand was hand-delivered the case study on these children by Ms. J., their social worker, who is currently in Fort Wayne as the escort for the children here as part of the hosting program. The full file and picture are available. The summary is here, followed by a report from the family who visited these children in March.
A: Male, DOB July 21, 1999
B: Female DOB April 25, 2002
C: Male, DOB January 4, 2004
D: Male, DOB July 25, 2005
E: Male, DOB June 10, 2008
The children came into care in 2011; they are half-orphans, and remaining relatives are unable to care for them. They are currently in a Catholic institution run by religious sisters.
A: Male, DOB July 21, 1999: Child A stays in the same dormitory as his two younger brothers. He is responsible and caring for his younger siblings. He adjusted easily to life at the institution, and performs his duties at the dormitory. He has completed grade 3 and regularly attends school, and is diligent, attentive and participative in class. He has not complained about being the oldest child in the class even though he had started school at a later age. He is generally happy, healthy and active, playful and friendly. He performs his duties with less supervision, but sometimes shows stubbornness. He likes to play basketball and football, and he is interested in art, music, reading books, and storytelling. He joins in sports and dance presentations. He has a stutter that has improved with speech therapy.
B: Female DOB April 25, 2002: Child B is healthy, active and bright. She is friendly, outgoing and playful, and does her duties with less supervision. She is good at dancing and participates in various activities at the institution. She is in Grade 4 at a private school, and has good marks, and is noted to tell the truth and act simply and honestly. She is very anxious to have a family and often asks if a family is coming for her and her siblings.
C: Male, DOB January 4, 2004: Child C is in Grade 3. He is noted to be diligent and participative in class, but did not accomplish homework and projects on time, so his marks are fair. He is a healthy and active child with a small build. He is well-adjusted to life in the dormitory, and does his tasks with less supervision. He is independent in self-care, even doing his own laundry without supervision. He enjoys outdoor games. He answers back or reasons out when reprimanded. He is a sensitive child and does not like to be teased by his peers.
D: Male, DOB July 25, 2005: Child D has finished Grade 1 with good marks, and was enrolled in Grade 2. In Grade 2, he manifested disruptive behaviors, and was sent for home study. When he realized that he was left out of school, he promised to behave better, went back to school for the final two quarters and finished with fair grades. He will be promoted to Grade 3. He is healthy and active, not picky about foods, and sleeps well. He does simple tasks around the dormitory, and enjoys participating in activities. He loves to dance and participate in games. He is an active altar server.
E: Male, DOB June 10, 2008: Child E is healthy and energetic. He can follow simple dance steps, pedal a tricycle and copy numbers and letters. He can take care of most of his self-care without assistance. His language development and social skills are properly developed. He is friendly and outgoing, but timid and quiet during activities. He likes to play with his peers, and he can sing nursery rhymes.
Family notes from March 2014:
Ms. J., my teens' social worker, introduced me to the oldest boy, who greeted her with the customary sign of respect, pressing her hand to his forehead. He listened politely and with interest as she talked to him. His little sister gave me a moment that lit a fire under me to find her a family. Ms. J. told her that I was going to try to find her a family. Unfortunately, this little girl's English was not too good, and she misunderstood. Her little face absolutely lit up, and she exclaimed, "You found us a family!" I felt terrible having to tell her, "Not yet; your paperwork still isn't quite done, but I will try." She looked so disappointed...but I'm determined to see if I can make this happen for these kids. She is so hopeful.
Her little brothers did not stop long enough to talk. They were running around in the crowd of little kids clapping noisemakers that they had just gotten at a party a benefactor had sponsored for the kids. I looked back over our pictures later, and noticed that one of them was hanging on my son's arm in his entrustment ceremony pictures.
I asked my teens about them, and they both would really like to see these friends of theirs come home nearby. My oldest daughter said she used to help take care of the little one when he was a toddler."
Requirements for adopting from the Philippines are here: Hand In Hand Philippines Program
Families inquiring about waiting children like these may find that some of the rules are relaxed. Children in the Philippines often can be hosted through the Hand In Hand Summer Hosting Program as well.