The list below is of children proposed for inclusion in the Philippine summer hosting program. Many are still waiting. The list below gives their initials, ages, and a brief summary. If you see a child or sibling set you would like to learn more about, let us know, and if it is not locked by another agency yet, we will send you their complete file, which includes a case study, medical and psychological evaluation.
Are you unsure about what it "looks" like to adopt older children, especially older boys? See some of the resources available in the links on the right, watch the video below, and consider this amazing testimony:
On My Own
(Blog link and video courtesy of Love Without Boundaries)
Children Eligible for Hosting in 2012
JP – 13 year old boy: – 6-7-98 –JP was admitted to care by his elder sister who did not want him to have to care for younger children in the home and have no opportunity for school. He attends a local public school and earns average scores. He participated in a hosting program in 2009 with his elder sister, but was not adopted by the family. They reported that he would sometimes get upset but not want to talk; he indicated it was because he couldn’t communicate well in English. He is considered a strong, silent type child. He complies with the requests of adults, does not get into fights with his peers, does his daily chores without complaint, prays the rosary daily and attends Mass faithfully. John’s caretakers hope for a family for him who will love him unconditionally and nurture him to adulthood.
J, M and V – 13, 11 and 9 year old brother, sister, sister: – 5/28/98, 12/25/99, 12/29/02 – the children were placed in care in 2010. The children had no place to call home and frequently wandered the streets, scavenging to earn money to buy food. Despite the hardship, they were loving and affectionate with each other, and expressed concern for the well-being of their mother. J was very happy upon admission and obviously quite bright and verbal. He likes to study, draw, play basketball, and interact with other children, and is easily adaptable. M is graceful, strong and coordinated and good at dance and gymnastics. She is not competitive, but likes to have fun. V struggles more with learning than her siblings do, but she tries hard. She likes physical activities and is a popular playmate among her peers. The children are generally respectful and obedient. They are curious and have good self-esteem. They talk about and pray for an adoptive family.
Je – 12 year old boy:– 5/3/99 (assigned birth date since a foundling)– Je entered care in 2007 when his elder brother could no longer care for him. Though he has some average grades in school, others are above average and he is reported to have a desire to learn. He had no desire to return to his family because he would not have the opportunity to go to school. He is observed to be prayerful and to give his best during prayer and devotions. His mood is usually cheerful and he listens to and obeys adults at the center. He participates in the extracurricular activities available at the center. He is conscientious with his studies because he wants to have a good job when he is grown. He lives in a child-caring facility with 25 other children. He wants a family who will love him and fill the emptiness in his heart.
C – 11 year old boy
MATCHED!
A and C – 15 and 13 year old brothers: – 5/8/96 and 10/2/98 –The children entered care in 2007; their father had died and extended family was not able to care for them. They are respectful and kind, sometimes shy, able to communicate well with adults but preferring the company of children their age. A enjoys participating in church activities. C would like to become a businessman. Ct lost sight in one eye when he accidentally injured it with a ball point pen. Both boys want a family as long as they are together. They are described as physically, emotionally and psychologically stable and well bonded to the caretakers in the center, though also desiring a family that will love them and help them become better persons.
L – almost 12 year old girl: – 2/20/2000 – The child was first placed into care in 2006. She subsequently had two foster placements that did not last because the families could not tolerate her misbehavior. A third foster family has been able to help the child learn to behave better, respect people and show more appropriate decorum. She seems happy with her foster parent but understands that the foster parent will not be pursuing an adoption since she is single. She shows diligence in her academic studies and ability to do household tasks expected of her. She lacks good self-esteem and sometimes holds her feelings inside, perhaps because of the multiple placements she has had. She needs a family that will interact with her, listen to her, and make her feel secure.
J and J – 13 and 11 year old brothers: – 2/7/99 and 10/3/00 - The children were placed into care by their mother in 2005 after their father died and she could no longer care for them. Though he was shy for several months after admittance, Ji eventually warmed to his new home, called the caregivers Mama and Papa and became used to the routines. He was enthusiastic about learning. Jo likes basketball, riding bikes, listening to Bible stories and singing along to worship songs. It is recommended that they be adopted by a family that loves music, arts, and sports and that will continue to give the boys spiritual guidance.
J and A– 13 and 14 year old brother and sister: – 9/27/98 and 7/25/97 – This is a sibling pair that was rescued from suspected abuse in 1999. They then spent four years in one center and then were transitioned to the center they are at currently. A is described as a healthy, active and talented girl who is outgoing, creative and gregarious. Her self-help skills are good and she has good eating and sleeping habits. She is an active participant in school and has leadership potential. She is also described as empathic and caring. She likes to swim, dance and sing. J is an active, playful and energetic child with good health. Though he had acting out behavior when he first came to this child caring agency, he has since learned more appropriate ways to act. He respects his teacher and completes his work. Reading is his least proficient subject. Both children yearn for a family that will love them. John wants them to be Christians who will help raise him to love and respect God.
J – 13 year old boy: – 8/8/98 – the child entered care in 2006 after previous caretakers had died. For a while he was not recommended for adoption because he had not stopped hoping a family member would come find him. He now understands that adoption to a permanent family is his best opportunity and he now wants this. He participates well in activities offered at the center, including sports, music, and Bible study. He plays drums in church. He is respectful of the staff and willing to apologize when he misbehaves. He needs a family who will help him grow in self-confidence and who can guide him successfully through adolescence.
Ja – 12 year old boy: 2/12/00 – The child came to the center with two younger siblings. He showed nurturing behaviors toward his siblings, was appropriately assertive, playful and reasonable when being spoken to. He can be helpful and thoughtful. When upset he might stomp his feet and refuse to talk but given space and time does come around. In 2007 Ja and his brothers were placed with an adoptive family but the placement disrupted when he showed misbehavior on the way to his new home. He was placed back in the orphanage along with his brothers. He saw a psychiatrist and was started in play and art therapy and on the medication Tofranil. With the therapy and the assistance of adults who cared about him, Ja has shown some positive advances in appropriate behavior. It was eventually decided that each child would best be placed in his own adoptive family apart from the brothers. Ja’s social worker feels he needs a family that can help him deal with the violent death of his father (which he purportedly saw happen) and give him assurance, structure, stability and experiential learning opportunities.
J - 9 year old girl
MATCHED!
R, R, R and R – 11, 8, 7, and 6 year old siblings:– 5/13/00, 5/20/03, 11/14/04, 11/17/05 – the children were placed in care in 2008 when they would be begging on the streets and were determined to be neglected. They had not been enrolled in school before then, but they show interest in their studies now and also participate in tutoring sessions at the center. They participate in activities of the center and comply with center rules. They understand that if they are adopted they can have a permanent family who will care for them and not neglect them. The family that adopts these children may need to access special educational services such as for Ro for hyperactivity issues and for Ry for speech and eye-hand coordination issues.
T – 9 year old boy:
MATCHED!!
J – 11 year old boy: 4/2/00 – The child was admitted to the center at approximately age 2 when a woman left him temporarily with a security guard at a mall and did not return for him. He is diligent in school and never wants to be absent. He likes to wash the center car and help with the gardening. He is very friendly, uses good manners and knows how to pray. Reading is his most difficult subject so he practices every day after school. He is obedient and follows the house rules.
W – 13 year old boy: 12/4/99 – W was admitted to the center in 2007 after staying with various different relatives who either could not continue to care for him or who reported that he would wander off without permission. When he first entered care, he had poor self-help skills. Now he can care for his belongings, complete chores at the center, supervise younger children when asked to do so, and cope with his school assignments. He has had counseling which successfully helped him to have good manners, not be argumentative, and to share his feelings in appropriate ways. Though he sometimes has visits from extended family members, they live on the streets and are not capable of caring for him. He longs for a permanent family who will love, protect, feed and shelter him.
R AKA L– 13 year old boy: 7/21/99 -- L was admitted to the center at in 2007. He is decribed as a peacemaker, calm and as a child who would play well with others. It was noted that he "laughs at his own mistakes, but he never ridicules others." He is decribed as well disciplined, well mannered, shy and happy to volunteer and help. He prays the Rosary daily. He will need help to improve is academics which are somewhat below average. He is excited about having a family of his own.
JM - almost 11 year old boy:
MATCHED!!
For more information and a complete case study please contact your local Hand In Hand Office or Vickie Truelove at: 260-636-3566 or
indiana@hihiadopt.org.
